By: Woodrow Odom Lucas
During my journey of healing from mental illness and demonic oppression, I have had the pleasure of encountered a system of psychological intervention termed, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. Dialectical Behavioral Therapy is an intervention first invented by a therapist who herself had mental and emotional difficulties. It was first intended to treat Borderline Personality Disorder, but it is truly useful for any number of maladies. DBT is complex, but part of its corpus are a set of principles that the patient or subject is to take a priori. One such principle is the idea that all people, no matter what we see them doing, are “trying the best that they can.” From Donald Trump to Hillary Clinton to Barack Obama to Elizabeth Warren, to homeless people on the street, to Wall Street profiteers, to racist police officers, to pedophiles, to child slave traffickers, ALL OF US ARE TRYING THE BEST THAT WE CAN!!
Now at first I was offended by this notion that all of us as human beings are trying the best that we can. At first, I thought, “That’s impossible!!” Look at some of the heinous things that people do?!! How could they possibly be trying the best that they can. But the more you ponder on the idea, the more you see that blindness and insanity and pain and anguish can bring about barriers to a person’s righteousness or beauty, even if they are deep down trying the best that they can. But even now, as I try and defend the idea, I see that it is truly indefensible. It just simply is. Everyone in the world is trying the best that they can!! It is a fact. And when we operate under this assumptive fact that everyone is trying the best that they can, we are freed up to love unconditionally as God loves us. We are freed up to love without judgment. We are freed up love with a positive regard that is unshakeable. If you are a bit incredulous to what I am suggesting. Try it for a week. For one week, assume that everyone you know and come in contact with and everyone you hear about on the news is trying the best that they can. I think you will be pleased with the results.
Namaste and God Bless!! Woody